Jesse Jackman, a Titanmen Exclusive, has just written another article for the Huffpost. Here it is in its entirety:
My husband Dirk and I have just one rule in our relationship: “Never bring home anything you don’t want to share.” It works on all sorts of levels. For example, if Dirk meets someone he thinks is hot and wants to hook up with him, I’m always invited to join them… or I can say, “No thanks, but you boys have fun.” I’m extended the same courtesy. It fosters a sexual openness that is both liberating and exhilarating; as long as I feel included, I’m not jealous at all.
There’s more to the One Rule, though, and it pertains to sexually-transmitted diseases. We have an open relationship, and on top of that we both work in the adult film industry. The bottom line is that we’re having sex with men other than just ourselves. And shit happens.
A few summers ago I started dating an amazing man. We were inseparable; our chemistry was great and we had lots of fun. We also had lots of sex, and despite the fact that we’d each recently tested negative for every STD known to man, we always used a condom: He’d lost his first boyfriend to AIDS and was adamant about being safe.
Fast forward a little over four months. Winter was approaching, and there was this big holiday fundraiser that I was really looking forward to taking him to. The day before the event I got a very strange voicemail from him. His quivering, quiet voice said, “Hey, it’s me. I can’t come to the party this weekend. I don’t even know if we can be together anymore. Bye.” Needless to say, I freaked. Things had been going great. I called him back, shaking as I dialed. When I spoke to him, he was choking back tears.
He’d tested positive for HIV.
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A guest post from Brenton of AUSSIELICIOUS:
Yet again, it’s World AIDS Day. Hopefully one day this day will be a day to remember those that we’ve lost to AIDS rather than a day to also try and raise awareness and talk about safety. There is still such a long way to go with this fight. Nearly all the porn studios have caved to the demand for bareback sex and the rate of infection in young men is growing because they just don’t see HIV as a problem. The only reason people treat HIV differently to something that requires constant lifelong treatment like diabetes is because it’s a sexually transmitted disease and we all know that men lose the ability to form rational thoughts when their dick is hard.
There is still a lot of stigma against HIV+ men if they are brave enough to disclose their status to a sexual partner but those conversations and education are the only way we are going to move forward to keeping people safe and reducing the stigma. Please play safe boys. Don’t make assumptions about safety or someone’s status. You are the only person who can truly look after yourself so treat everyone you sleep with as if they may be positive and use condoms.
I can’t say for sure that the DALLAS BUYERS CLUB is based based on a true story, but it does give one a feel for what it was like back then in the mid-80′s when AIDS was a newly discovered disease with few known treatments and even fewer treatments available. At that time, FDA was being really hard-assed about enforcing thier regulations and most doctors were totally unsmpathetic to patients. Pharmaceutical companies were being greedy as all get-out. I haven’t seen DBC yet, but I will and I will review it for my readers.
But if you would like to see a wonderful documentary about those times, see HOW TO SURVIVE A PLAGUE, that was made by David France, who was there. It shows the rise of Act-Up to fill the need of patients who were literally dying for new drugs and put pressure on the FDA, doctors and drug companies*. This ground-breaking film is available on Netflix.
*I recall when I was working for big pharma and we brought Videx to the FDA for approval [the 2nd drug to be approved after AZT], I was in contact through clinic visits with several members of Act-Up who kept asking if a demonstration was needed. But, we [the company] were so well prepared thanks to our tireless and dedicated staff, the only question remaining was to determine the dosage on which the data were not clear. Besides, by that time FDA had bent over backwards, allowing us to use Expanded Access data in our application; something unheard of just a year or so ago.
Sorry for not posting this prior to the event! Maybe I can be forgiven since I am on the East Coast! But it sounds like it would have been so much fun!
Nick Moretti, Leo Forte, Element Eclipse and Sister Eden Asp were featured in DIY Kink on the 14th:
Join Sister Eden Asp and her sexy porn star friends Nick Moretti, Leo Forte and Element Eclipse, the evening of Wednesday, Nov. 14th for a “Do It Yourself Kink” demo nite at the Center for Sex and Culture. Sister Eden challenged Nick, Leo and Element to come up with two “DIY” sex toys each from everyday items you might find around the house. The guys will explain how they made and use their homemade kink toys, and share how they keep their kink play hot, safe and sane. Our partners over at the San Francisco STD Prevention Section will also be on hand offering free STD screening. Each person who takes part in screening will receive a raffle ticket for a chance to win exciting prizes. More details to come…
The photos look like so much fun!
Yes, that’s right; as a result of my brain hemorrhage I have low physical and mental stamina. My brain is freshest in the morning, so that’s when I post, and I can only be physically active for a short time. In other words, I could not go out for an all day hike. But, that’s really no different from most folks, since we don’t all have all day to devote to our workouts anyhow. Do we?
I swim laps a couple of times a week. I have always loved swimming. It started in high school when I learned to synchronized swim and fell in love with that sport. When I met Sean, he taught me to race swim and told me that I was a natural. Now, I swim laps at our local YMCA. Recently, Sean has shown me that I can swim laps with fins on my feet either prone, on my back or sides. You just fly across the pool with fins on and crash into the opposite end. It is just like running in that it gets your heart rate up and you feel the burn in your leg muscles. We plan on doing some open water swims with fins this summer in local ponds and reservoirs. I am stoked!
I walk at least 30 minutes a day when I don’t swim. I used to run for exercise and fun, but then got shin splints/stress fracture and had to stop. I tried to go back to running too many times to say, but always the shin pain returned. Since my brain episode it has been years since I last ran. But, last Sunday, I drove down to the padded track at the high school and walked the curves and ran the straights on the track. I managed 1.5 miles before I had to quit. My shins didn’t hurt, but the running was just too jarring. It was such a bummer. I only felt good during two of the straights that I sprinted.
Yesterday, I took my iPod, clipped it to my shorts, turned on my favorite Salsa music (Marc Anthony) and just moved to it during my walk. In no time I was speed walking. Speed walking. Why didn’t I think of it before? Your body never leaves the ground, so no impact, and you burn the same amount of calories as if doing a slow run. You just look goofy as hell. You have to kind of move your whole body to do it. You sway your arms and shoulders, move your hips, it is just like dancing! Running be damned: I’m a speed walker now!
My goal is to do something to stay fit everyday. I am not quite where I want to be yet, but I am getting there.